If you’ve been a recruiter for five minutes, you’ve met them. The spouse, relative, friend, or neighbor who always has something to say about your business. Maybe they don’t understand why you walked away from a steady paycheck to run your own desk. Maybe they think working for yourself isn’t “real” work. Regardless of the specifics, the pattern is the same. Uninvited opinions, over and over again.

You’re catching up with family or sitting around with friends when someone casually throws out, “Are you still doing that headhunting thing?” Or worse, “Have you thought about getting a real job?” There it is again. The familiar jab, wrapped in fake curiosity.

Frustration is a normal response. You’re tempted to snap. Maybe hit back with your own observation about their job or choices. It would feel good, for a second. But it won’t move the conversation anywhere useful.

What’s Actually Happening

When you hear the same criticism repeatedly, it kicks off a stress response. Cortisol rises, your guard goes up, and suddenly you’re in defense mode. That’s natural, but it’s also a loop you can step out of.

Try this instead:

 “I appreciate you sharing your perspective. I’m happy with the path I’m on, even if we see it differently.”

That mantra does a lot. It acknowledges them without inviting more. It protects your energy. And it makes your boundaries crystal clear.

Why It Matters

As headhunters, we deal with opinionated people more than most. We guide candidates and clients through tough decisions. We’re used to fielding feedback and staying calm under pressure. So why let someone outside the industry rattle your confidence? You’ve built something that works. You’re allowed to protect it.

The Next Time Someone Questions Your Choices

Pause. Breathe. Then, pivot with clarity. Let your success speak louder than your defense. The people who get it don’t need convincing. And the ones who don’t, won’t hear you anyway.